Being mindful isn’t a new thing, it’s about being aware, and having a conscious awareness in the moment. in the 21st century we are on the go constantly that we rarely have a chance to stop and just be.  But by becoming consciously aware and recognising our thoughts and feelings it helps us to connect with ourselves on a much deeper level beyond our thoughts. Allowing us to become present and experience a deeper connection with ourselves, helping us to become aware of what is going on inside of us.  Mindfulness is a useful practice if you suffer with stress, anxiety, or have a busy lifestyle. Mindfulness can also help improve your mood and your focus as it removes distractions.

Here are my top 5 tips that you can start practicing today.

  1. Meditate.

For me this is the most important step of my day, having 5 children, home schooling and working from home. My morning meditation allows me to start my day right, it gives me twenty minutes to connect and focus on the quiet, allowing me to gather my thoughts and feelings and to be clear on where my day ahead will take me. This morning ritual allows me to start my day right, meaning I am calm and ready for the action-packed day ahead.

Meditation means taking time to be still and silent, but there are no set rules on how this should be practiced, you don’t have to have a lot of time as this can simply be done with just five to ten minutes each morning. You also don’t have to be sitting in lotus position whilst om chanting, in fact I find lying down on my bed the most relaxing.  It is also ok if your mind wonders and it will, all you need do is concentrate on your breathing and it will centre you back to where you need to be. You Can meditate to relaxing music, take a guided meditation or just sit and enjoy the quite it really is up to you. Once you start putting this into your daily practice, I guarantee you will never look back.

  • Gratitude

With social media at our fingertips, it’s easy to get lost in comparing what you have or how you look to others.  We can get lost in a world of envy as we see jane posting about her brand-new car, or the great big diamond ring her fiancé has just put on her finger.  Whilst Susan is sharing pics of how she dropped her baby weight in just 6 weeks. and your youngest is now three and you still have a mummy pouch, bags under your eyes from lack of sleep, and are lucky to go to the toilet without disruption right!  Believe me I get it as I said earlier, I have five children to contend with each day.

It is so easy to get caught up in the jealousy and lack mindset, after all we are all human and jealousy is a natural emotion, but what happens when we choose to really focus on our own lives, what we do have, and we start to show gratitude?  We increase our mindfulness and happiness. After all, how can you be jealous or feeling a lack when you mind is full of gratitude.

You will begin to look at the world differently by practicing gratitude, you will start to focus on the good in your life and from within and you will ultimately bring an abundance of joy into your life. I started this practice after my husband was diagnosed with stage four terminal lung cancer. Our family and our businesses were affected by such diagnoses and it wasn’t long before the anger set in.  In that moment I realised I had to look for the good in the situation and what surrounded us as a family. And so, I started to journal 10 things I was grateful for each morning.  And these things could be absolutely anything but after a few weeks I noticed as a family we were living in the moment, enjoying life together and feeling happy for this time to make memories.  You can find something to be grateful for in any given situation.  Why not start practicing being grateful by jotting down 3 things you are grateful for each morning?

  • Slow down.

We live in a face paced world and have 101 tasks to complete every single day right. I mean I sometimes wonder how I manage to juggle work, home schooling and everyday tasks but I do, and I even managed to get the me time I truly need to reset my batteries.  How I hear you ask……

No, I am not superwoman, although I am sure it would be fun to be. My secret is I have learned to slow right down.  Focus on one task at a time and to schedule in the most important tasks for that day.  I pick three things I need to do for me. And My top five tasks to do that day. This could be paying a bill, writing this blog, taking the washing out of machine, zoom call with a client and cleaning out one of the kitchen cupboards, and once I have done these five tasks, I treat myself to my three things for me,  coffee in the garden whist reading a book,  candle lit bubble bath, movie night with the kids. Everything else can wait. I came to realise when you slow down and really act on a few important tasks each day you get so much more done. Try it and let me know how you get on.

  • Enjoy nature & get out more.

Do you remember those long warm summers when you would spend all day outside with your friends, building dens, riding bikes and having the best adventures ever? Yep those were the days. Fresh air and being present in nature can really do something to boost our mood, but as adults we tend to spend most of our day stuck indoors at work and rarely have the chance to enjoy the sunshine.  Being in nature helps to ground you and bring you back to the present moment. That’s why I love to take my cuppa out in my back garden and get lost in a book. Switch your phone to silent, find a spot you love. Be it at home in your garden or a local park during your lunch hour, and take that time to breath in the fresh air and really enjoy the warmth of the sunshine on your face. It will certainly give you a boost of happiness to continue your day.

  • Listen to others.

Last on our list is to listen to others, as a coach I know just how important it is to really listen when someone is speaking with you. To actively take in each word and understand how they may be feeling in that moment. We are so consumed with our own thoughts it is rare that when we have a conversation with someone, we are fully immersed in it. You know what I mean? Have you ever had a conversation with someone and as you are talking, you can tell by their face that they aren’t really listening to you. Or has someone been talking to you and whilst listening, your mind wonders to what you want for dinner, or the fact that you are going to be late for the post office. I know I often talk to my husband, and he even answers me. Yet ten minutes later he will ask me a question I have already given him the answer too.  You can practice mindfulness but giving your undivided attention the next time you have a conversation with a loved one.  Each time you catch your mind wondering off, re focus your attention to what is being said. It takes practice but its so worth it. I promise.

So, there you have my top 5 tips on being mindful, why not join our free fb community for more hints and tips to support yourself love journey.